Would you agree that our individual personalities are something we are born with, which develops or becomes more apparent over time? Personality is nothing more than “the totality of qualities and traits, as of character or behavior, which are peculiar to a specific person.” For instance, how we relate to another is part of our individual personality; do we possess the persona of kindness or abrasiveness in everyday life?

Character traits can be both innate and learned behavior. As species of humanity, true also for the animal kingdom, we are fashioned with certain behavioral patterns at conception which are instinctive to our individuality; however, circumstances and environment can also shape the people we later become. Evident throughout our lives is the disposition in which we inherent or learn, by which we are known. It follows us into the work place, the recreational arena, as well as the area of romance and personal relationships.

For the most part, one’s personality is such that it can dually benefit them in a positive manner in both their work and private lives. However, there are cases where the work place environment is so brutal that the learned behavior in relating to brutal individuals is also transposed onto individuals in one’s personal life. This then creates a huge conflict of personality where there was once unity and peace. One individual, once possessing a kind personality, has now become abrasive due to similar environmental exposure.

In the case of such a situation, the torn individual must learn to and take the initiative to draw the line. The aggressive abrasive personality which may be acceptable in the work place surely is not palatable within a love relationship. Dominance, control, constant suspicion, and mistrust are sure to destroy a good relationship in time. So drawing the line and turning off the work place learned behavior once one is at home is a successful key to not losing one’s favorable innate characteristics or the one he/she loves. 

Copyright 2010 by Ms. Cheyenne